This is not our normal kind of content around here at Choosing Trust! For my regular readers, please don’t panic! If you’re new, then you came at a good time! 😉 I feel like there’s a great need in the Church to talk about sex in a Biblical way. I do a lot of pastoral counseling and this topic affects EVERYONE. Because of it’s sensitive, private nature, many people are struggling and have no idea what to do or who to turn to.
I want to preface this… I am NOT an expert. The views I have are based on the Bible and my own experiences. It is in no way my heart to bash anyone who believes differently than I do or to argue with anyone. I am simply a Christian who believes the Word of God is true.
There is so much confusion around sex. What is appropriate? What does the Bible say about it? Do Christians get to change their views because culture has changed? We are going to dig into these questions during this series. Over the next month we will be discussing four truths about sex. Here is truth number one:
- SEX WAS GOD’S IDEA.
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth,” (Genesis 1:27-28a ESV).
This scripture is in the first chapter in the Bible. We are talking about page one of the Word of God, people! God made a man. Then He made a woman. He blessed them and told them to have lots of sex!
God gave Adam and Eve the ability to populate the world by having sex. The anatomy and reproductive systems that we have were made by Him. That means that the human body is not a dirty, embarrassing thing. Every single part of us has a purpose and was made by a holy God.
“And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed,” (Genesis 2:25 ESV emphasis added).
We have to discuss shame right up front. God’s perfect plan for Adam and Eve was for them to enjoy the Garden of Eden together. They literally walked around completely naked. They did not even know that shame was an option until satan lied to them and sin was brought into the world.
When some of you read the title and it had the word “sex” in it, you may have automatically filled with shame. You might have been taught that sex is a bad word – that it is shameful or dirty. That’s simply not true.
If you have been sexually abused or taken advantage of, shame is a very common side affect. My husband and I were both abused and introduced to sex way before we were supposed to be. If you have painful memories that make you feel shame, take them to the cross and see what Jesus has to say about them. Counseling has also been tremendously helpful for us too. I encourage you to seek out professional counseling if you haven’t done so.
Unhealthy voices are talking about sex. You cannot drive through big cities without seeing billboards of half dressed women. You cannot watch tv without it being right in your face. The world is creating our culture around its warped views of sex: “Get as much as you want with whomever yo want. Don’t worry about the consequences. Do what feels good.”
It is not my intent to be offensive or cavalier in speaking about this sensitive subject. But I do think that if the world is going to shout its views, I’m going to use this platform to share the truth of God’s word. Believers don’t have to hide or cower because of sex; this whole thing was God’s idea.
Here is a preview of the other truths we will be discussing:
- Sex was designed to be saved for marriage.
- Sex outside of marriage is sin.
- God is the restorer.
I am praying protection over you as we go on this journey together. I want us to experience God’s best in this area. Christians should thrive in their understanding of purity. We are going after Eden here. I’m not saying that God is going to heal us all of our shame and then we can go to Wal-Mart in our birthday suits! (No thank you!) But I am saying that there’s an innocence and purity that needs to return to us.
Sex was God’s idea- He isn’t embarrassed by it. He created it for us to enjoy. Let’s choose to let go of shame and walk free.